I’m not a fan of it, but I’m learning how to deal with it

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So the big topic that we have decided to discuss this month is change. Now, change is not my favorite thing to deal with. I like routine. I like the familiar and I feel a bit discombobulated whenever I get thrown out of it. That is not to say that I have not worked on trying to get better with it.

In my life, I would say that there have been four major changes in my life that have impacted me and thrown me for a major loop. The first major change was when I was seven. My family moved from the town where I was born (Janesville) to a whole new town (Portage) about an hour and a half away from everything that I had known. The second major change in my life was when I moved to a new state to go to college (in Winona) and my parents moved from the town that had become my home (Portage) to a new town (Elkhorn) the same week. The third major change was when I graduated with my Bachelor’s degree and moved back in with my parents (in Elkhorn) for nine months before I started my Graduate program. And so naturally the fourth change was when I moved back to Winona, started a new course of study, a new job, and lived in my own apartment for the first time.

I will not try to sell you that I was happy with most of the changes (although I was pretty happy with my move after I graduated from Undergrad). In fact if you were to ask my Dad how I was when I found out about any of the moves, how I was during the moves, and quite possibly how I was for the year after each move, he would probably tell you that I would be described as  happy camper. But I survived each one and can now look back and say that they each helped me grow.

The one change that I learned the most about myself was when I moved to Winona for my undergrad. I learned how to create my own schedule and stick to it. I learned that I could create relationships with people without having to have someone that I trusted standing next to me. I learned how to balance my life so that I didn’t get overwhelmed or too stressed (stress in itself is unavoidable in life I am afraid). I even picked up photography and started to draw more with that move. But that is not to say that there were not many days and nights when my loneliness was not all consuming or that I worked myself up overthinking every part of my life. That is not to say that there were not times that I wanted to jump in a car and go back to my home in Portage and hide out in my basement (it is probably a good thing that I did not have a car with me for the entirety of my Undergrad…). But slowly but surely I tested something new, when I felt comfortable enough to do so, until I had a life that I was content with and didn’t feel like running away as much (there were still days when I wanted to go hide away but not as many as there were at the start).

During this most recent move, I have reacted the best (I would say so anyway, you can ask Dana or Lilly and see what they have to say about it). What I have found works best for me is to just drive around and just see what is in the town and what is close by. Once you know what is close by, you can make little plans to go to different stores to see what options you have and then eventually you get into the swing of things. You have a routine that feels familiar but is different from your old routine but that is okay because it fits in your new life. I also recommend checking out all of the different coffee shops you can because any obstacle in life is easier to manage when you face it with a good cup of coffee.

It’s okay to be afraid of changes. But in the end, life moves on and the changes that you thought were huge just become a part story in your life.

Embrace the changes you face, or at least try to with a good cup of coffee in your hand 🙂

Emily

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My name is Lilly and here are the basics. I’m Christian, I’m asexual, and I love people almost as much as I love dogs. I have generalized anxiety and bipolar disorder, I collect hats, and I have what I hope is a charming tendency to overshare. So here’s a little bit more about me, your third co-contributor to this new year of My Bright Corner.

When Emily is behind the camera

Momentary sidebar: less about me and more about us. Dana and Emily are two of the coolest people who have ever existed. They are kind, openhearted, gentle (yes you are, Dana), and bold (yes you are, Emily). The three of us are an unusual trifecta. We are simultaneously incredibly different people and yet somehow are exactly the same. I love these guys, and participating in this blog took very little convincing. I’ll snatch up any opportunity to work in close proximity (even if that is an internet-based proximity and not a physical location) to these two crazy and wonderful goons.

Alright, now time to crack down on the details of who I am. I’m 22. I am a senior at Amherst College in Massachusetts. I am a studio art major and formerly a computer science major (more on that later). I currently work as a barista at a super strange and wonderful international student cafe: Shiru Cafe. Give it a google, y’all. It’s pretty neat.

My life has been a wild ride. A very wild ride. My friends have been instrumental in keeping me grounded and about as sane as any of us can be. Beyond that is my faith in Jesus. God is a cool bean (yeah that’s an understatement) and I’m obsessed with talking about Him, so I’m sure that’ll come up in future posts. Feel free to ask me questions, but remember that I am no theologian so I won’t have all of your desired answers. But I do know what I believe and I am so ready to talk about that.

I have almost 50 hats, a collection that only began a little over four years ago, a majority of which are gifts. There’s a story behind that too, which I’m sure I’ll share.

I am a storyteller. I am currently working with a few other incredible young women on a few works. Basically, we are making the wild mistake of trying to write three different novels at once, since we just can’t decide on which one we want to give the most focus.

What else…

Molly Mae gives me life

I’m the youngest of four, and I have a niece and a nephew. I’m afraid of heights, boats, and spiders. I love to travel (though I can’t stand travelling alone). I’m obsessed with elephants and mustaches and Dungeons and Dragons. I like to write fiction and code (but I don’t program often). I like making things. I get bored easily. I love people but they suck sometimes. I have chickens and gerbils and dogs and they are amazing creatures who deserve love, and generally, people deserve love, too.

I often panic about what my future holds as I don’t have a single post-graduation plan, but as I try to figure that out, I turn to God.

With that, I’ll leave you with my favorite Bible verse.

“Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34

Yours truly,

Lilly

New Year, Now I’m a Blogger

Hello World!

My name is Emily. Dana (the lovely creator of My Bright Corner) and Lilly (the other new contributor to this page) have been my friends since middle school. Although we have been friends for a little over a decade, we are all very different people in many ways. But that is what I love about our friendship. Our differences is part of what has helped us to remain friends for as long as we have (our differences and the fact that these two know way to much about me and they have seen me through almost every major transitional period in my life).

As is the case with most things that get me out of my comfort zone even in the slightest, Dana is the one who brought me on board here. And as far as her having to convince me to do this, it didn’t take as much effort as other things have (like when she had to beat me in Guitar Hero to get me to go to a middle school dance… still not over it for the record). This is another chance to stay connected with two of my favorite people and a chance for the three of us to collaborate creatively. Who wouldn’t agree to that?

Anyway, I suppose I should talk about myself now so you can get to know me a little bit (first thing to know, if you were to look up the definition of shy in the dictionary, you would find a picture of me there so talking about myself is not my favorite).

I’m 22 years old and I am a Graduate Student at Winona State University where I am studying to get a Master’s degree in School Counseling (Yes we do learn how to ask “and how does that make you feel?”). I graduated from Winona State in December of 2017 with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a minor in Child Advocacy. Also, I am a Graduate Assistant at a child care center where I spend the majority of my days surrounded by fifteen four-year olds who are equal parts adorable and hilarious and only slightly frustrating at times.

Unlike most people my age, I did not (and do not) spend my time going out with friends all the time or drinking or doing basically anything spontaneous. I am the most introverted introvert to introvert. I would rather go to a coffee shop than a bar (although I am a coffee addict who is allergic to alcohol so that may play part in that…). I am a bookworm. I am a movie buff. I am a music geek. I draw pictures occasionally (although they are nowhere near as amazing as Lilly’s). I take pictures everywhere I go. If I could spend my days by water, I would do so without hesitation. I grew up the daughter of a pastor/marriage and family therapist and the sister of a very protective older brother. I have spent an afternoon crocheting while watching black and white movies. I am basically a grandma in the body of a 22 year old, and in all honesty,

I am very okay with it.

Let’s let this adventure begin! As Dana said in her post, if you have any questions, feel free to ask me anything!

-Emily